Updated: May 30, 2020
When someone has hurt or betrayed us, it’s hard to not take it personally. But in reality - it’s not about you. Yikes! That’s a hard pill to swallow!
It’s not to say that the situation did not happen. It happened and it hurt! So, don’t deny your experience. It did happen, it’s just not personal.
We make assumptions that people are conscious and know exactly what they are doing, and they are deliberately doing it to hurt us. Wow! If you think about it, we are really giving the other person a lot of credit!
Once again, we can go back to - it’s not about you. The idea that they are deliberately trying to hurt you is just not true. People are doing what they are doing with the tools they have available to them. They are living their own self-serving reality. And that has nothing to do with you. We are all growing and becoming more conscious at our own soul growth rate. So, it cannot be assumed that someone else can make the connection between what they are doing and how it is affecting you. They do not know any different in that moment.
This can be a hard concept to grasp. Especially when we have been really hurt. So, don’t stuff your hurt feelings. You must first express and allow your feelings without any judgement. Experience these feelings as real and valid.
Once you have done this, take a look at what happened more consciously. Observe the situation from a less subjective place. This happened, but it’s not personal. Once you do this, you will free up a lot of stuck energy and feel much more free!